Now I know this site is not intended to be a personal column for the events of life, but I'm bowing to public encouragement to introduce you to a friend of mine.
Here's Molly Grace Shakespeare Elliott. Molly entered the world at 11.52am on August 26, 2007. She weighed in at 3210grams and stretched out to 50.5cm when it mattered. She's got a less than comfortable head (35.5cm) in the clinches but it's covered with plenty of hair. She hasn't said much so far.
We're more than happy to have her stay at our place for a while...
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Yep, she's here
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
He ain't heavy ... he's my brother
My brother is an artist, a renovator and somewhat of a property mogul. He's also been trying his hand at other pursuits recently.
Check this out.
I couldn't be more proud.
Top 5: Leaders of the Bible, Leaders of the World
I've been preparing to lecture a unit on leadership over the last couple of days. The first couple of weeks is spent reviewing some of the great leaders of the Bible and some fine leaders throughout history. So I thought I'd throw it out there. Butter up with two separate Top 5's: one for biblical leaders and another for giants of leadership through history.
As far as criteria goes, the only criteria is that you consider them a leader. Feel free to add words of clarification or even what you admire about their leadership but, like any leader, don't feel that it's a particular stereotype of leadership that qualifies them for a list like this.
Monday, July 16, 2007
Greatness.
From Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, 1601:
"...Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon 'em"
(Malvolio)
Given that the overwhelming majority of the population considers themselves 'above average', which one of Malvolio's three options are you?
Better still, what have you got to say about greatness?
Friday, July 13, 2007
The Cacophony Interviews: July 2007
Peter Birt, Pastor et.al.
On a Wednesday in the middle of May, Peter Birt – pastor, runner, football fan – and my uncle – was diagnosed with bowel cancer. The following Friday, he went in for surgery and came out fitted with a colostomy bag. I spoke to him in early June – the day after he left hospital – about the journey so far. Here are some highlights of that conversation...
PB: Yeah, so...you go to hospital, and suddenly you’re an invalid. And you’ve got nurses saying ‘you will need to be shaved’ and it’s embarrassing, you know, and you’re just this helpless...invalid. And I was really grateful for some Scripture that I’d memorized...out of 1 Corinthians that says,
I care very little how you judge me – or any human court. Indeed I do not even judge myself. My conscience is clear, but that does make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me.
And I found that concept incredible helpful when you’re going through all the indignities...You say, I care very little, it matters very little, it is the Lord who judges me, my worth and value and sense of identity come from him. So I found myself going over that Scripture while they’re snipping away, doing all that stuff. Which helped, I guess, to cope with embarrassment and indignity.
Prior to it all...there was another verse that I memorized the previous week or two weeks before, 2 Peter 1:3 that says,
His divine power has given us everything we need for life – and I gather the word means an abundance of life – and for godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us according to his own goodness and glory.
And it just struck me, those two things, life and godliness. His power is available for whatever life throws up but then it’s available for godliness which I took as being a God-centered, Christ honouring response to what was happening. So when I became more conscious [following the surgery], I just went over and over those Scriptures and other stuff...because I knew I just had to keep my mind...focused I suppose or renewed by truth...I just found that incredibly helpful and I’m so grateful that I had a whole lot of Scripture...
C: The spiritual disciplines have been a big part of your life for a while now…It sounds like they were really helpful?
PB:Absolutely helpful. One of the things I found most reassuring out of all this is that that stuff matters...There’s so many days over the course of a long walk with Jesus that you don’t particularly feel like reading Scripture, or you don’t particularly feel like praying or, for many years I made fasting part of my practices and you don’t feel like it, your stomach gnaws away. But what I found was just this overwhelming sense that it was worth it, it really counted for something. When the tough time hits, I’m not starting from scratch...You do the training off the spot so that on the spot, you instinctively do it.
I think some people kind of expect that you will fall to pieces, and I was always aware that that could happen; I’ve got great capacity to do that. It may yet happen, I don’t know. But when I look at the Scriptures and see things like Psalm 16,
I have set the Lord always before me, because He is at my right hand I will not be shaken.
You know there’s some reality there that seemed to become...
[Peter’s eldest granddaughter arrived. Peter really loves his grandkids…]
Yeah, so I want to shout to young people in particular, the disciplines matter, hanging out with Jesus matters, consciously doing it, being intentional. You might not feel like anything is happening but it is, and you cannot overestimate miles walked or kilometers walked with Him, intentionally, seeking to live in His presence, setting Him consciously before you. It matters. And you reap the benefits of it. It’s like there’s a reservoir that has something in it, as opposed to just trying to face it on empty, which I can’t imagine how hard that must be.
C:I know your family have been really important through this. What about other people? Has there been any interaction or impact?
PB: Yeah, huge. I’m so grateful, I got so many cards and emails and messages and people sending us, a couple of people sent us cheques... One totally anonymous one just blew us out of the water, we’ve got no idea where it came from, there’s been all of that, tremendous support, people who are praying. Then, I think at one stage there were about six people a day who would come through, and that’s even with our own home church being banned from coming because we didn’t want an influx. And just the conversations around the bed have been amazing, talking in depth about stuff.
...I was really encouraged, I eventually discovered two of [the nurses] were Christians and they would just drop in for social visits after a while and we had some fantastic conversations...
[In this situation] I’m just a normal person and my role as a pastor means absolutely nothing, I’m just this old fella lying in this bed... I began to think about what does it mean for the Kingdom of God to come in this body as it now will be? Or what does it mean for the Kingdom of God to come to this bed? And then I expanded that to what does it mean for the Kingdom of God to come to this room? And I thought about how if the Kingdom of God came to a location then there would be beauty, and so I was really thrilled that people had sent flowers and I was thinking, ‘Yeah, that’s what it would be like if the Kingdom of God had come’. And then Jill had had a birthday on the Monday and so she’d brought some balloons in that someone had given her for her birthday, and I thought, ‘I’m so glad that these balloons are in my room, in a somewhat sterile surrounding, they add a bit of life’. And I thought, you know, if the Kingdom of God came, there would be life in the midst of what’s happening.
And then I thought, there would be meaningful conversations if the Kingdom of God came, and so I made it a point of praying, ‘Lord, I don’t know what today holds, but if there’s anything, any way that my life can be an open book for other people, then I’m available, I’ll talk with them.’ So I’d quietly pray for the nurses.
And then with these two nurses… I’d talk with them and say, ‘this is how I’m wrestling with what it means to live in the Kingdom in my circumstances, how do you guys do it?’ And we had great conversations...
But then a whole bunch of other people came in, and generally speaking, the level of conversation was below the surface. There were a couple of instances where it was surface stuff, but generally it went down underneath, and we talked about what it means to walk with Jesus in these kind of circumstances. And in that sense, it was absolutely rich and life-giving and soul-replenishing.
C: I know you’ve talked about it as an ‘apprehensive adventure with Jesus’. What does that mean for you?
PB:Initially, it meant: I was apprehensive – I don’t like pain, I don’t like people fossicking around with my body, thank you very much – I’m somewhat private, by nature. I certainly didn’t know initially what the future would hold. So for example, I love running, I didn’t know if I’d ever be able to run again. So there’s all sorts of apprehension – what else might I not be able to do that I can now do. How will I cope with the pain, how would I cope with the emotion, would I get depressed? Apprehension – don’t know.
On the other hand, adventure because: Years ago I memorized or adapted a little phrase that says,
Discipleship is walking with Jesus in the real world, having him teach me moment by moment what it means to live life his way.
And that’s an adventure. So I thought; this is just a new adventure in knowing Him in circumstances I had never been in before. And I wonder what I’m going to learn about Him, I wonder what it’s going to be like to walk with Him through this phase of my life? Maybe he will rub some of the rough edges off that drive me nuts. Maybe I’ll get refined and I’ll end up looking a little bit more like him, maybe His love will become more real or present or be amazingly sustaining, I don’t know. It’s an adventure of getting to know Him in my real world that’s changing. That’s what was behind that concept.
I think out of that, came something that I hadn’t thought much about: That the formation of Christ in a person’s character; I had tended to think that that’s good for me, that Jesus will make me more like Him and so I will be more comfortable being me. What I came to see through my time in hospital was that the formation of Christ in me is for the sake of others. Yes, there’s a benefit for me, and ultimately it’s for Him, but there was a fresh sense that it’s for others, that what happens in others as a result of what he does in me is more important. And part of that meant being willing to open my life up, rather than shut it down, to be in the light, because people can’t see what Jesus is doing in you unless you’re in the light. So I deliberately chose that when people said, ‘What do we say to other people?’ I said, ‘Tell them that this is what is happening.’ I had no sense of keeping it a secret – this had to be in the light, or else I can’t see how Jesus can use it.
Which then led to some reflection on healing. I firmly believe that Jesus has the power to heal, and I was praying before I went in to the operation, with Jules and Brad and Jill, ‘Lord, if you want to, you could still heal and I would love you to do that.’ But the more I reflected on it later - I have a neighbour next door who has had two lots of cancer treatment, and another neighbour across the road who is currently going through a form of cancer treatment, and I thought, imagine if I come waltzing back saying, ‘Wow, they opened me up and miracle of miracles, I was healed! Woo! Isn’t God good?’ I’m not sure that that message would have as much capacity to glorify God as me coming back and saying, ‘Guys, this is new to me, what have you guys learnt? How are you coping?’ And then maybe, along the way, having the opportunity to say, ‘The support of people has been fantastic, blah blah blah, BUT, I also found that my relationship with God has deepened and that He’s sustained me.’ I just wonder whether that’s actually a little more powerful than just saying, ‘Wow, I’m healed, what happened to you?’ Which would be horrible...
In all of this, one of the things I’ve [been] wrestling with is the issue of whether I’m in denial. I’ve surprised myself...that I seem to have been fairly positive, and yet I know I’ve been depressed [in the past]. I know what the dark and melancholy side of life is. So I’ve been thinking, it might sound like I’m in denial, but it doesn’t feel like that. But, it’s always a possibility. Or maybe the issue is that you don’t know...
C:I pretty regularly get asked to pray for people who are in situations like this. There were a lot of people praying for you - did that make a difference for you?
PB:Oh, yeah. I felt, I think, I’ve been sustained because people have been praying. So in Phillippians it talks about, being in prison or whatever he’s been doing and he says, with the help of the Spirit and your prayers, and I go, ‘Yeah, I’ve experienced both of those’.
One of the interesting things I’ve noticed is, I have family members who aren’t followers of Jesus and it really struck me powerfully when I rang them to tell them. They’ve got nowhere to go with it, so they’re shattered, going, ‘Oh, I can’t imagine what that must be like.’ Yet when I tell a Christian, even though they may be not necessarily a burning hot Christian, they’ve got somewhere to go, and they’d say, ‘Oh, right,’ and they’ll be shattered, but they’ll say, ‘Well I’ll be praying for you.’
And so yeah, I felt incredibly supported and sustained by the prayers of God’s people. And really grateful to know that people were praying. If you were to ask me, what did I want them to pray? I would say, I want somehow Jesus, the reality of Jesus in me to somehow shine through whatever happens. Again it’s that wonderful thing, I think it’s John 12 where Jesus is wrestling with what the future holds for him and says,
So what shall I say, Father save me from this hour? No for this reason I have come. Father glorify your name.
For me that...it’s not about being saved from it, that would be great, but bigger than that, it’s that Jesus life and presence and reality somehow shines through and impacts people. But yeah, greatly supported and consciously thought of that, I think people’s prayers have really counted.
C: Has God been teaching you anything about himself?
PB: Over the last few years I’ve been reading through the Psalms with one of the kids from youth group...I think every Psalm has at least one verse underlined – every psalm except one – and one day I read through the ones that I’d underlined, and again I was amazed at how God is a living, interacting, present God. That he’s this refuge and that he acts on behalf of those that trust him, that just came through. I kind of want to say to people who are going into hospital, you know, if it’s been your practice to set him before you, then you can expect that you won’t be shaken half as much as you might be, because he is a rock, and he’s present, and he’s powerful and sustaining, and you can expect that. Yeah it might be tough but you can expect that the unshakeable God will pour some of his unshakeableness into you...
One of the things that struck me really early in the piece was the mechanisms of walking with Jesus on the Wednesday of the week before I knew any of this were no different from the mechanisms of walking with Jesus on the day that I discovered I had cancer, or the day of the operation. That internally, it’s the same processes, that you wake up in the morning and talk to Jesus and say, here I am today. I surrender to you, I trust you with what happens today, whatever it might be, and then you walk with Him. And if life kicks you in the guts you tell him about it, you say, ‘Oh, this really hurts, I never expected this but thank you that you’re there and I give this over to you’. And if there’s some joy in your life you capture it and say, ‘Lord, talking to these people was such a joy-filled experience, thank you for allowing me to do that’. So the internal processes are exactly the same and if you’ve got them in place, then you know how to deal with what happens. Sure it’s a bit more significant perhaps, but the processes are the same.
C:How high is the horizon from here, how far out are you looking? Are you looking forward in time?
PB:Well, in two weeks time I’m talking to the surgeon who will put me onto an oncologist who will begin a process of chemo and radiation, and I have absolutely no idea how I will respond to that, I’ve heard stories of how some people say, ‘I don’t know what all the fuss was about,’ and breeze through. I’ve heard stories where people are absolutely wiped out and they can’t work and then all shades in between... My church where I work has been absolutely fantastic, they said to me, you’re a staff member, we want you as a staff member, if we see very little of you over the next six months that’s ok, if we don’t see you over the next six months that’s ok, if we see a lot of you over the next six months that’s ok, we’re there with you. That’s an amazing gift. So, in terms of looking life expectancy, I don’t know. I just want to live well in whatever the next little bit holds. And I want to learn, I want the adventure to continue. I suspect that this is going to be lot tougher than what I’ve been through. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have constant nausea, and I am a physically active kind of person, to not feel like being active. I don’t know what any of that’s going to mean. So I suspect that that might be a far bigger battle.
C:But the processes are the same?
PB:The processes are the same, yeah. They might be harder to do. But [for example], my practice is to journal, and yet in hospital, I went over a week without journaling and yet I survived richly. I didn’t open my bible, and yet, just to be able to pray through the Lord’s Prayer as an extended paraphrase was a wonderful thing because I’ve done it many times before and I could invent new tracks. Or a stupid little thing that I found incredibly value was just going through the alphabet and thinking of attributes of God. I’d think of some A’s, think of some B’s, and then sometimes link As and Bs together, Cs and Ds together, Es and F’s together, and sometimes do nouns, sometimes do verbs. And in utter weakness I could lie there and in my head do that. And it builds your soul up with God. And it was a way of setting Him before me in my utter weakness. And it was sustaining. So yeah, the processes are the same.
C:It’s a very affirming story of God’s power...
PB:Yeah, He’s real. I wrote about 10 points in my journal and one of them is - Jesus is real. For me personally, it’s been really reassuring that this stuff matters, and it comes home to roost. And it’s not just the processes that come home to roost, it’s the reality of the One that the processes are about. His sustaining, nourishing, replenishing, rock-like life, comes real. I remember lying in bed, I couldn’t get to sleep because the nurses had been in and out and just going, Oh, Lord, I love you so much because you love me, just overwhelmed by the sense of his loving presence. It was so real, palpable. Will that be there all the time? No – and it hasn’t been. If anything, I think earlier on it was heightened, and it’s a little bit more mundane now, but man, I’m convinced that you just keep on clocking up the miles...
Peter is currently undergoing his second round of chemotherapy and radiation. He preached last Sunday - you can find the podcast here.
A month later I'm still processing the things I learnt that afternoon...
Thursday, July 12, 2007
Welcome to the Future!!!
The first part in an “end-times” triptych.
Many Christians love to have very deep, complex discussions regarding their eschatology (view of end times) – usually with multiple references to obscure numbers or verses in Scripture. The end times doesn’t need to be filled with placards, tracts, or bigoted views that polarise the Church. Don’t worry; I’m not about to go there.
The end of the world tends to freak people out, and it’s quite understandable.
The first thing that comes to my mind is R.E.M.’s song “End Of The World As We Know It” and seeing as I really don’t like R.E.M., this immediately gets me retreating.
The most common topic I hear people discussing when it comes to the end of the world (from a Christian perspective) is “When it is going to occur?”. This is usually combined with arguments based on current political events and allegorical interpretations of scripture that prove their opinion. At the heart of this type of view is a hunger to see Jesus return and see what the Whore of Babylon really looks like. I don’t know if you feel the same way, but this is what turns most people off joining the eschatological conversation.
Despite the (sometimes) weird trappings, it is important to include eschatology in our theological discussions and not be afraid to mention more than “Well all I know is that Jesus is coming back”. A good eschatology will not just get a person looking for evidence of the future, but will draw their view of the future into their present experience. Have you ever thought about the end times as a framework for which to live in the now?
In the Bible, this word ‘end’ comes from the Greek word Telos that doesn’t only mean “the final part of something” but also carries a sense of the fulfilment of a purpose, goal or duty.
So, while we are talking about the end of history, we are also talking about the end goals, purpose and duty of the Kingdom of God. This immediately makes us change the focus of our question from “When is it going to happen?” to something like “What is the end goal of the Church, how does that affect life in the present?”
For instance, if an individual’s eschatology were to be based solely on the belief that the End has only to do with the physical end of the world, how would this affect the way they live? I think we would find that their environmental choices would certainly be affected, as would their perception of a Christian’s role in society and politics. Their view of the world would be coloured by their anticipation of seeing the fantastic events of Daniel and Revelation come to pass. Sometimes, people have very good reasons to suspect that the end of the world is nigh...
... but the trick is to balance this with a broader perspective.
Another person may hold similar beliefs about the end of time but, to them, eschatology isn’t just a study into when and how the earth will end. Their entire lives can shaped by what they see to be the end goals of the Kingdom – renewal, justice, rest, hope, grace, love etcetera.
Eschatology need not only be an exercise in reading the “signs of the times” but can be, if perspectives are broadened, a way of viewing life that is filled with hope. This mini series will look at a couple of aspects of viewing life with the end of the world and the end goals of the Church catholic in mind.
Stay tuned, the world may end before we’re done with this.
Sunday, July 8, 2007
Top 5: Cheesy redundant statements of product promotion
You know the ones, you see them printed onto an object, they state the blindingly obvious, they serve no purpose but their attempt to elevate the product to a higher level of design results only in a very elevated cringe factor.
What irks me is that the person who places these statements there somehow seems to thing that we are stupid enough to read them and succumb. But succumb to what? The reading of these statements mostly takes place after we’ve bought them, like every morning when I make coffee in the office and read the phrase on the fridge (see below). I'm really glad we own that fridge now - thanks to the statement. Is the statement supposed to encourage us to buy another one of something we already have? In fact you have to wonder who decided to put them on there. Surely it couldn’t be a designer of some sort; if a designer is coming up with stuff then they are making some career limiting moves.
So here are my top 5 observations:
1. Printed on the fridge in the kitchen at our office: “Ergonomic Spacious Cooling Design”. Duh!
2. Printed on a placemat in the kitchen at the mine site: “Modern Living”. This is accompanied by a picture of a knife and fork. I look at this and I am quietly comforted that by using a knife and fork (and placemat even) that I have elevated my standard of living to be “modern”. Thanks Mr. Designer, job well done.
3. Any cup, mug, etc, that includes the randomly placed words of “tea, coffee, latte, cup-of-chino, hot beverage etc.” as a pattern design. I was actually wondering what to put in this cylindrical shaped ceramic vessel with a handle.
4. The hot-chip and fried food packets that you get from those light-industrial lunch deli’s with the words “Good Food” printed on them. Sorry, but if you have to state it on a pack of deep fried lard, then chances are that it is anything but.
5. A rubbish bin I have seen here with the statement printed onto the bin stating (loosely translated) “Life is better with your rubbish in this bin”. That’s the truth right there folks.
Saturday, July 7, 2007
Encumbered forever by desire and ambition
This lyrical gem from Pink Floyd has been rolling through my thoughts for a week or so.
Somehow it sprung to mind while walking to work one morning, pushing through what was a very challenging week where Simone and I were forced to consider walking away from our life here in South America. I thought about our desires and ambitions that we had placed on our time here in Peru, and what it would mean to fulfill them, or to not be able to fulfill them, or to actually voluntarily let them go. The thought arose in my head of how, while desire and ambition can propel us towards some great stuff, it can also be one of the biggest encumbrances to doing what we are really called to do.
Last week my meloncholy thoughts spawned the “sad songs say so much” post which was born straight out of our situation. It was a tough week, we had to battle through a circumstance that was far outside our control and it ate at our relationship, our sleep, our joy, and ultimately our desire and ambitions. It was the darkest of times indeed. As the worship team at our church prayed with me (in Spanish – but its ok because God knows a bit of spanglish) I came to the realization that although we were in the middle of a dark time, it was actually my desires and ambitions that were snuffing out the very small candle of hope. Hanging onto what I wanted was really causing me some Matthew 6:25 anxiety.
I desired to be here for a certain amount of time, had ambitions of saving money to meet a certain goal, conquering the Spanish language, and a bunch of other stuff. I thought they were God’s ambitions too, but maybe I just hoped more than really thought they were. It wasn’t till I really looked at the reality of walking away from all of that, and saw what could be if I did, that I realized that God actually does know what he’s doing (duh). Simone and I gave our situation to Him with the most faith that we could muster, and with a decision to act in faith and bear the consequences.
If I am un-encumbered by my desires and ambitions, then it does not scare me to let them go. It does not worry me as much to change them or have them changed for me; in fact it’s actually exciting. I mean, it’s been a great ride so far, imagine what’s coming round the corner then! So, in the words of Frou Frou, we let go, jumped in, what were we waiting for (its alright, there is beauty in the breakdown!). A breathtaking thing to do for us people addicted to budgets and spreadsheets and 5 year plans (it was breathtaking to come here in the first place, but even more breathtaking to consider having to leave).
But great was Thy faithfulness, and it was handed back to us (stop me before I pull out some cheesy Sting lyrics). God beat us to it and saved us from a very tricky situation, gave me courage to stand in the face of a very strong challenge, and changed the heart of the decision makers before I could even address the matter with them.
I have been thinking long and hard about that week. I have been considering what it means to have desires and ambitions. Thinking about Ps 37:4 and what desires do I want God to put in my heart. Do I let my desires and ambitions encumber me, or do I look for the ones that God is handing to me and allow them to set me free. There's an ongoing challenge, but constantly difficult as it requires regular renewing of the mind.
And the full verse, just in case you’re racking your brain as to the next line of that Pink Floyd song, is as follows, and I find them more than a reminder of a state of mind I'd like to keep moving away from...
Encumbered forever by desire and ambition
There's a hunger still unsatisfied
Our weary eyes still stray to the horizon
Though down this road we've been so many times
High Hopes – Pink Floyd
Thursday, July 5, 2007
Climate change mayhem.
With all the news on TV lately about the extreme weather conditions affecting parts of Australia, we shouldn't forget that Perth has its share of devastating weather too.
Here's a photo illustrating the damage caused to a friend of a friend's home from the storm that passed through Perth on the weekend. It really makes you appreciate what you have, and reminds us not to take things for granted.
Christian Scholarship
The matter is quite simple. The Bible is very easy to understand, but we Christians are a bunch of scheming swindlers.
We pretend to be unable to understand it because we know very well the minute we understand it we are obliged to act accordingly. "My God", you will say, "if I do that my whole life will be ruined. How will I ever get on in the world"?
Herein lies the real place of Christian scholarship. Christian scholarship is the church’s prodigious invention against the Bible, to ensure that we can continue to be good Christians without the Bible becoming too close.
Oh, priceless scholarship, what we do without you? Dreadful it is to fall into the hands of the Living God. Yes it is even dreadful to spend time alone with the New Testament.
Soren Kiekergaard.
Thursday, June 28, 2007
If I lived in the US I'd be buying a phone today...
Today would be the day I joined a long line and bought myself a new phone. Nah, truth is I'd probably wait until the noise died down or order it on line. Heck, it's only a phone after all. That's not really true—it's an iPhone! And there's just a little hype surrounding the launch.
In the last six months, Apple’s iPhone has been the subject of 11,000 print articles, and it turns up about 69 million hits on Google. Cultists are camping out in front of Apple stores; bloggers call it the “Jesus phone.” All of this before a single consumer has even touched the thing.
I'm happy to wait though. It builds character. Passionate patience Paul called it. I shouldn't get too excited...they'll probably sign up '3' as the network of choice.
Still, it might be fun. And my phone's already surrendered.
Manly Man Part 3 of 3:
Characteristics of a Manly Man
Welcome to the epic final installment in a series of posts about Manly Men.
Grace, we must learn, is opposed to earning not to effort - Dallas Willard
So far I've rather clumsily tried to point out––as have many others––the crisis of masculinity in the Australian church. Someone suggested post #1 was a bit of a "shot across the bow" to raise the issue. That's pretty much on the money. In post #2, which focused on characteristics of Unmanly Men, I wanted to crush all of us who are blokes with the weight of responsibility that comes with being a masculine man. Every man is essentially an Unmanly Man. Some of us are so through our wilful disobedience and rebellion, others through ignorance––and all of us because we are broken at the core and, in a myriad of ways, we give God the finger and seek to do what we want to do.
So hopefully you fellas were reading #2 and feeling uncomfortable. And at the same time I hope something in you was feeling angry––like you know it's not the whole story and you want to throw the 'grace blanket' over the rough parts. I don't believe it is the whole story but until we sit with our sin, name it and agree with God about our need for him, we get nowhere.
The Vision: Keep Shovelling!
That brokenness is a grace gift that points us continually to Jesus. From that place we cooperate with God who, by the Holy Spirit, works an ongoing transformation in us for an eternity––the very beginning of which is a promise of its completion (Phil 1:6). Our task as aspiring Manly Men is to work with God––to keep shovelling. And in that process of shovelling––of working hard, being courageous, sacrificing ourselves, being others-centered––we discover that the gospel makes sense, we relate more closely with Jesus and we discover our deepest joy.
The vision is a big one: Manly Men who in humble submission to Jesus in the power of the Holy Spirit shape communities, families and churches into gospel-living, culture-transforming brilliance to the glory of the Father. (I'll take trinitarian for $250 thanks Alex...) This vision takes shovelling. It's not always pretty, it's rarely easy, but I believe it's right––and beautiful.
Some assumptions
At a basic level, men are created in the image of God and find their identity in Him. Men are created as worshippers who, through the fall, are sinners by nature and in need of God's saving grace. Men aren't self-sufficient beings, but created in need of God and others. God created men different to women. Wayne Grudem and John Piper define biblical masculinity like this:
At the heart of mature masculinity is a sense of benevolent responsibility to lead, provide for and protect women in ways appropriate to a man's differing relationships.
I think that's a tidy definition because it focuses on maturing out of sinful distortions and limitations to both act and feel benevolence in ways that are appropriate to different kinds of relationships. The combination of acting responsibly and feeling responsible means that mature masculinity isn't about just ticking the box, which is still immature, but focuses on a quality of heart, a core disposition that shapes concrete actions, attitudes, thoughts and words appropriately according to context. Here's another good one from Stuart Scott:
The possession and pursuit of redeemed perspective and character, enhanced by qualities consistent with the distinguishing male roles of leading, loving, protecting, and providing--all for the glory of God.
Jesus is the Perfect Man
Jesus is the perfect man and our ultimate example. He does the Father's will (not his own), was filled with Spirit (not worldly wisdom), lived a holy and obedient life, gave people the gospel, sought to meet the needs of others, sacrificed himself, sought to be gentle wherever possible (not harsh and demanding), was decisive and not wishy-washy or afraid, led the discples, showed initiative, confronted others when necessary, fulfilled responsibilities, was diligent and not lazy, served and listened to others in his leadership, wasn't proud and lording it over others, sought to glorify another (Father) and not hungry for attention or recognition.
Biblical Qualifcations for Manly Leaders
Above all, Manly Men are to put on Christlikeness and seek to emulate Christ in their lives. Characteristics from the biblical qualifications for church leaders include: being above reproach, a one-woman man, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, gentle, organised, loving good, upright, holy, disciplined and holding firm to the word to teach and rebuke.
Roles for a Manly Man
As you can see there's a huge amount of context and scene-setting that goes before an explicit discussion of roles of a Manly Man. Here are a couple of characteristics that are unique to Manly Men.
Leader
God is the ultimate leader. God appointed Adam to oversee the garden despite the fact that he could do a better job Himself (Gen 2:15, 1:28-30, 2:20). He was given tasks before Eve arrived on the scene. When she was created it was to help Adam in the work God had given them. Adam was to lead, Eve to help and follow. A Manly Man is a leader who is: wise, full of initiative, decisive, humble, courageous and personally involved.
Lover
God is the ultimate lover. Adam and Eve were given to each other as marital companions, an intention that's clarified throughout scripture (Mal 2:14). In the NT husbands are singled out as needing to exemplify this sacrificial love that Christ has for the church (Eph 5:25). This love involves living in an understanding way (1 Pet 3:7). Jesus commanded the men he left behind to love and serve each other (John 13:15). John Benton writes: There is need for repentance. Perhaps single men have used the strength they have to serve themselves rather than other people. Perhaps husbands have used their strength to dominate their wives and children. We need to learn to come back to God, back to his Word of Scripture, and learn again to walk with him. To be a loving sacrificial servant of others, as Jesus Christ was, is not to be namby-pamby. It is to be a true man. A Manly Man is a lover who is: kind, gentle, giving, considerate, a servant and self-sacrificial.
Protector
God is the ultimate protector of his people (2 Thess 3:3). A man makes the same commitment to protect his family, his wife, his children, the church and others around him. In 1 Corinthians 16:13 God commands the peeps at the Corinthian church to protect the faith by saying "act like men" (ie. be courageous, man up). Jesus protected his disciples (John 17:12) and expects church leaders to protect the body of Christ (Acts 20:28). A Manly Man is a protector who is: courageous, bold, strong and watchful.
Provider
God is the ultimate provider (Psalm 34:10). In the NT husbands and fathers are specifically given the role of provider (Eph 5:29, 1 Tim 5:8), as are leaders of God's people (Ezek 34:1-4, John 21:15-17). Manly men should seek to meet the true needs of the folks in their care: both physical and spiritual. A Manly Man is a provider. He needs to work hard, exercise wisdom, be personally involved and have a servant-heart. He needs to do all he can to care well for those he gets to love and lead.
Aspiring Manly Men
How to become a Manly Man? Simply, put off sin and grow in Christlikeness. Sins like fearing man, self-pity, loving pleasure, pride, laziness, selfishness, idolatory, lack of trust in God are pretty obvious impediments to cultivating masculinity. A real man will put off anything that stands in the way, cultivate practical skills and qualities as part of daily living. It's a lifetime journey and the metaphor of a shovel has been a helpful one in my life––some people lean on the shovel (avoid), others swing it at people (abuse) and some pick it up only to throw it away (abandon). The key is to use it to cultivate something greater than yourself and in so doing be transformed.
More...
• You may have come across the biblical qualifications for elders and glossed over them because you're not one or don't see yourself becoming one. But I think they're good criteria to measure yourself against as you seek to grow as Manly Man. Check out 1 Timothy 3:1-7 & Titus 1:5-9.
• Read and study the book of Proverbs, which is basically a book written by men to train younger men.
• You might never intend to plant a church, but this article draws heavily from the qualifications for elder and it's something I read and journal over a few times each year.
• Study the lives of flawed and faithful biblical men.
• Pray and ask God for wisdom (James 1:5)
• Read historical biographies of men of the faith who sought to live life well, fallen as they are.
• Look for men who are older than you––who have kids and grandkids and who have walked faithfully with Jesus for many years––and sit and listen to their wisdom. Ask them lots of questions around the practical application.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Spacious Miracles
Think quick: which of Jesus' miracles do you remember first? There's no winning answer, just something to get us off and running.
In an internal monologue (probably a dialogue given there was Q&A involved) during my Sunday morning run, I settled on one...
Riverview had a Miracle Offering Day on Sunday for all our Riverview Trust initiatives and while I was considering what I might talk about with the team I lead as a foray into leading our church in worship, I got thinking miracles.
My answer took me back to Year 9 at Wesley. Before I get there though, the miracle:Some time after this, Jesus crossed to the far shore of the Sea of Galilee (that is, the Sea of Tiberias), and a great crowd of people followed him because they saw the miraculous signs he had performed on the sick. Then Jesus went up on a mountainside and sat down with his disciples. The Jewish Passover Feast was near.
When Jesus looked up and saw a great crowd coming toward him, he said to Philip, "Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?" He asked this only to test him, for he already had in mind what he was going to do.
Philip answered him, "Eight months' wages would not buy enough bread for each one to have a bite!"
Another of his disciples, Andrew, Simon Peter's brother, spoke up, "Here is a boy with five small barley loaves and two small fish, but how far will they go among so many?"
Jesus said, "Have the people sit down." There was plenty of grass in that place, and the men sat down, about five thousand of them. Jesus then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish.
When they had all had enough to eat, he said to his disciples, "Gather the pieces that are left over. Let nothing be wasted." So they gathered them and filled twelve baskets with the pieces of the five barley loaves left over by those who had eaten.
After the people saw the miraculous sign that Jesus did, they began to say, "Surely this is the Prophet who is to come into the world." Jesus, knowing that they intended to come and make him king by force, withdrew again to a mountain by himself.
I want to write a few words about Jesus feeding the 5000 but first, let me just say this: my theological understanding of what went on is fairly simple. Jesus took the lunch of a boy who was willing to give sacrificially and blessed it. Something miraculous and supernatural took place that was inaugurated by Jesus and activated by the obedience and faithfulness of the disciples. The food didn't multiply upon being blessed, it multiplied upon distribution. While there's plenty of significance to be gleaned from the miracle, I just want to leave my understanding of it there for the moment. When I was in Year 9 at Wesley College, our new Headmaster spoke in chapel for the first time. He read this passage. In an act of what I would consider supernatural dilution, he advocated that the real miracle wasn't so much that Jesus did anything special. Rather, that the boy's generosity was a catalyst for evoking the generosity of those around him. By being obedient, generous and forthcoming with what he had, Mr Kefford argued, the boy was positively infectious to the others around him. Those who were previously 'hiding' their food not only dragged it into the light, but also shared it with those around him. The miracle became a miracle of spacious generosity.
I guess it was a neat and salutary message to selfish school boys. Heretical in my humble opinion, but neat and salutary nonetheless. After chapel I took on the Headmaster (probably shaking in my size 7 shiny black leather school shoes) and challenged him about whether there was any need to water down the Bible. I suggested that maybe Jesus was more than capable of a miracle that was well beyond our comprehension, rather than seek out an angle that made it more conceivable or palatable. He thanked me for my thoughts and said he'd take them on board. In truth, he was probably glad to see the back of the fundy Baptist boy.
As I reflected on this on Sunday morning, I realised that whether or not it was accurate to the events that might have taken place 2000 years ago, the notion of behaving spaciously was demonstrated in the telling.
Our words and our action inspire and grow, or deflate and diminish those around us. Our attitudes are contagious. And, from that perspective, we're all leaders. We're all capable of building up or tearing down. Unintentionally or intentionally.
The Apostle Paul recalled a principle regularly considered in Proverbs when talking to the church at Corinth:Remember: A stingy planter gets a stingy crop; a lavish planter gets a lavish crop.
I vote yes to miracles that can only be explained through the supernatural. I also vote yes to the authority of Jesus to be the steward of those unexplainable signs and wonders. Yet I also vote yes to the (often miraculous) notion that you and I, through going about our sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life with eyes on eternity, can change the flavour of the world around us. We can be positively contagious. There's truth in it.
Live creatively friends.
(PS. On reflection, 'water into wine' was probably my 'top of mind' miracle...but I don't have a Year 9 story about water into wine. And that's appropriate.)
The Occasional Ensemblee Series:
No shame about Ray
Our fine friend, Raymond Lampard, got his Ironman on last weekend. For those under the illusion that 'Ironman' is simply a moniker given to some multi-displinary event of arbitrary distance, know this: the Ironman consists of a 2.4-mile swim (about 3.8K), a 112-mile bike ride (179.2K) and a 26.2-mile run (42K or a marathon). Rayzo completed the sucker in Nice, France on the weekend. Gidiup, great man! Here's a considerably complete report from a man of few words:
Le Ironman is over!
1400 athletes ventured into the French Riviera at 6.30am for the start of Ironman France 2007.
I had a reasonably good swim, a 1400 person start going around one buoy, a few kicks to the head, goggles ripped off, all makes for a good day. Unfortunately a somewhat long transition and long run follwed to actually start the bike leg. The transition was over 250m long and my
bike was at the end!
Onto the bike and the field started to spread out. After the first 20km the climbing starts, 11% followed by a 7-8% climb, various switchbacks for the next 20km. Then you start decending and start the major climb of the day. Just over 20km up to 1400m, a long arduous process with no rest. That climb alone took 1.5 hours. Don't know why but my back was causing some grief, could have been the extra tyre and weight I was carrying in my back pocket.
The next section was up/down and played with my head a little. You had two more mountain passes, one at 900m and the next at 1000m. After seeing a few guys come off, you had to really concentrate.
The best part of the ride was passing through a quaint little village with the road wide enough for one car. Rammed earth buildings on both sides. AMAZING. Only lasted 2 mins but it got me through the rest of the day. The other thing was seeing 4 french girls, potential ooh la
las cheering on the cyclists in their French summer attire. You could class that as a distraction.
The last 50km was dangerous. Swithbacks are common in France and given you have to descend from 1000m quite dangerous. Two major incidents. Got hit by another cyclist as he cut across my line and the second hit a pothole wich temporarily lost control.
Scared the crap out of me!
My back became progressively worse especially when I came to the last 20km which was flat.
So, onto the run and legs weren't going anywhere. Hamstrings were tightened from lower back. Lost it a little bit for the next 10km and realised the back was the main cause for frustration. On the 3rd lap had a nurofen and that numbed the pain. In the end did a slow marathon time but at one stage was gonna do a plus 5 hour marathon.
So the last 5.5km back into the finish were tough and long. Knowing I was 30mins away from another Ironman was the thing that kept us going. 2km from home and a few tears remembering the people who have helped me on the journey.
Ironman is a surreal experience. Afterwards you are left questioning why you push your body to those endless limits, the answer: because you can.
So now it's onto the rest of my holiday—2 more weeks in Europe to find a suitable ooh la la, followed by a week in Cambodia and Malaysia. My sister joins me in a couple of days time.
Looking at heading to the Bordeaux region for some wine tasting. This region is known for their great red wines.
Ray
Top 5: Sad Songs Say So Much
Life can leave you feeling very sad sometimes. I'm a fan of the melancholy, I have been known to embrace a bit of misery from time to time.
And there's nothing to help you along your way with your eyes to the pavement than a good sad song. Songs are sad because of the words, the idea or concept, the melody, the production, the sounds, the chord progression, and sometimes little delicate details that invoke emotion.
Here's my Top 5 for an emotional rainy day:
1. Stable Song - Deathcab for Cutie
2. Somersault Score - Decoder Ring
3. Into The Sunset - Neil Finn
4. Drugs Don't Work - The Verve
5. Say Hello Wave Goodbye - David Gray
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Especially for Simon
Guppy's to Puppy's has made me chuckle since childhood. I even surprised myself at how enjoyable it was to read Simon's tome exalting the humble apostrophe. Here is a blog dedicated to tracking the misuse of the beloved mark. Although, I am still more of a literally girl.
Friday, June 22, 2007
Scratching lyrical (A communal Top 5)
There are moments of magnificence and beauty when the breath of our creator God seems to infuse the mind of the created in a sublime way. Through the crafting of words, a song lyric can capture or recall experiences, people, emotions and time in a way that cuts through the clutter with alarming simplicity. Sometimes that doesn't happen. Sometimes the reverse happens. Alas, some lyrics become memorable because of their abuse of our curious language.
That's what this Top 5 is all about. The one-liners within songs that make us start searching for sharp objects. They're either cheap rhymes, banal notions or just plain English. A few decades back, a band called Supertramp wrote a song called 'It's raining again'. The sad thing is, it often gets played on some commercial FM radio stations - usually when it's raining again. Brilliant. The song houses the heartfelt cry 'Come on you little fighter, no need to get uptight-er'.
Among other things, this Top 5 is likely to demonstrate that we're equally capable of recalling the dross as we are gold.
So, bring it on. A communal Top 5 or 55 of chalkboard-scratchy one-liners where the writer should have really gone into a room for all of mirrors before saying, 'I think I'll pick up a royalty cheque for this'.
PS. It's more than possible to still like a song that contains a hideous lyric. Tough but possible. Perhaps redemption has stories to tell.
The Communal Top 5:
1. Come on you little fighter, no need to get uptight-er
(Supertramp, 'It's Raining Again')
2. Excuse me forgetting, but these things I do. You see I've forgotten if they're green or they're blue. Anyway the thing is, what I really mean: those are the sweetest eyes I've ever seen
(Elton John, 'Your Song')
3. Roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll'em, Don't do much good, but good Lord, he could roll 'em. Roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, Don't do much good, but good Lord, he could roll 'em. Roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, Don't do much good, but good Lord, he could roll 'em.
(Neil Diamond, "High Rolling Man")
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Thursday, June 21, 2007
My symphony
After a big month of much stretching...people...events...conversations... thinking and more, a quote from William Channing helps me gain perspective on the big and small.‘To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury, and refinement rather than fashion, to be worthy not respectable, and wealthy, not rich. To study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly; To listen to stars and birds, to babes and sages, with an open heart. To bear all thankfully, do all bravely, await occasions, hurry never. In a word, to let the spiritual, unbidden and unconcious, grow up through the common, this is to be my symphony!’
- William Channing
Life is full of the common, yet our take on the small and large of life, can turn the daily into a symphony or into a torture chamber.
Reminders that encourage me to be thrilled by the leaves flickering from the winter sun, tempted by the sound of a loved one whispering not much, the pound of the footpath heavy under legs that can still walk or the caramel of sugar dissapearing through the foam of a chai latte.
Appreciating the small, to increase the size of my heart. That my friend is the timing and notation of my current symphony...
A
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
John Stott lives.
If you've never heard some of John Stott's prolific and wide-ranging corpus, then it could be time to get going. Here's a guy whose life has been characterised by faithfulness, industry, endeavour and the pursuit of truth. There's a whole lot that's worthy of imitation about Stott, here's but a wee slice of the gold that he has mined:Our neighbour is neither a body-less soul that we should love only his soul, nor a soul-less body that we should care for its welfare alone. Nor even a body-soul isolated from society. God created man who is my neighbour; a body-soul in community. Therefore, if we love our neighbour as God made him, we must inevitably be concerned for his total welfare: the good of his soul, his body and his community.
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